Being someone who is still dating her first boyfriend, and has been for almost 4 years, oh and he's in the Navy....I get A LOT of relationship related questions. like, "How do you do it?" or "Why would you do that to yourself?" and of course, "Are y'all going to get married?"
But, probably the question I get most often is, "How do you know you're in love?"
Truth is, I don't. Truth is, no body every really knows if they are "in love." The feeling is just too close of a feeling to others like, lust and infatuation.Many people have tried to describe how love feels. Some say it's like butterflies in your stomach, some say it's like being up in the clouds, and still others say it's like fireworks. Many people have tried to explain what love is. Some say love is holding on with all your might, some say love is letting go.
With as many descriptions as we have today, not to mention all the songs, their is no way to know for sure whether or not you are in love...But as you would expect of me, I have thought very long and hard on, how I know I am in love.
He's what I've come up with.
You are in love if during your partner's lowest you don't think of them any less and during their highest you don't think of them any more. Meaning, the feeling you feel for them is the same in their time of giving and their time of receiving. You may like them more or less depending, but if the same root feeling (which I would argue is love) stays the same throughout, I believe you are in love.
Here's another thought.
No body is perfect. No body. But, if you see another's flaws as part of why you "love" them, I think they are perfect for you. I do believe there is a "perfect" person out there for everyone. But, don't be mistaken, if you think someone is perfect for you and they don't think you are perfect for each other, then you are not meant to be, sorry. It is only when there is a mutual vision of perfection that two people are indeed meant for each other.
Side note:
Don't let yourself think you know better than God. He knows who you need to be with, he created both of you after all....if it doesn't workout then you just have to know you are 1 person closer to finding the one God has custom made for you.
Bottom line:
Love is something you have to evaluate for yourself. Nobody knows better than you if you are in love. Good luck.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Uh Uh, Not Cool : Yep It's Religious
You know what really grinds my gears?
When people try and shove their religion and ideas on it, down your throat.
I understand the whole "let’s go out and spread God's word," and all but I really feel some of these "missionaries" are going about it the wrong way.
It is my opinion that in order to "spread God's word" you shouldn't try and just start telling them why they should be Christian or whatever other religion. If your faith is based on doing unto others as you would have them do unto you...follow that. I guarantee you that it would offend you/ be considered harassment if a Buddhists or Hindu or some other major world religion missionary came up to you and basically told you that you were wrong and that you were going to die and be miserable if you didn't join their religion. This is like saying, your club sucks and if you don't join ours you are going to suffer. LADIES AND GENTLEMEN OF THE JURY this is a straight up threat!
How bout instead of words, you use actions. Let those who want to "have what you have" see what you have first. Then whip out the Bible or Koran or whatever. Use missionary works, not missionary words. Words are limited anyways.
Plus, you don't really know if you're right. After all YOU are only human. YOU are not God. To "know" what God meant by the Bible is saying you know as much as God.
Only God knows for sure any and all the answers and wonders of the world. Humans should not try and explain to other humans the mysteries they have not yet solved themselves. The mystery of God or whoever is not solved till you die and you are met face-to-face with His light or Nirvana or what/wherever you think you're going….Because that's just it. You but only THINK you are going there. You cannot truly know for sure something until it happens. You can have faith, but all the faith in the world cannot make something be something it’s not.
So please, if you must mission to others, let them see His glory through your good works and kindness, not through force feeding your ideas to them. After all, your ideas are human ideas, only God knows what his ideas are.
When people try and shove their religion and ideas on it, down your throat.
I understand the whole "let’s go out and spread God's word," and all but I really feel some of these "missionaries" are going about it the wrong way.
It is my opinion that in order to "spread God's word" you shouldn't try and just start telling them why they should be Christian or whatever other religion. If your faith is based on doing unto others as you would have them do unto you...follow that. I guarantee you that it would offend you/ be considered harassment if a Buddhists or Hindu or some other major world religion missionary came up to you and basically told you that you were wrong and that you were going to die and be miserable if you didn't join their religion. This is like saying, your club sucks and if you don't join ours you are going to suffer. LADIES AND GENTLEMEN OF THE JURY this is a straight up threat!
How bout instead of words, you use actions. Let those who want to "have what you have" see what you have first. Then whip out the Bible or Koran or whatever. Use missionary works, not missionary words. Words are limited anyways.
Plus, you don't really know if you're right. After all YOU are only human. YOU are not God. To "know" what God meant by the Bible is saying you know as much as God.
Only God knows for sure any and all the answers and wonders of the world. Humans should not try and explain to other humans the mysteries they have not yet solved themselves. The mystery of God or whoever is not solved till you die and you are met face-to-face with His light or Nirvana or what/wherever you think you're going….Because that's just it. You but only THINK you are going there. You cannot truly know for sure something until it happens. You can have faith, but all the faith in the world cannot make something be something it’s not.
So please, if you must mission to others, let them see His glory through your good works and kindness, not through force feeding your ideas to them. After all, your ideas are human ideas, only God knows what his ideas are.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Fat Kid Moments
I may only be 21 year young, but I'm also 21 years old.
I may not be an expert on life, but hey you'd have to live a whole life to be able to say that and hopefully 21 years isn't all I get.
We are all told not to do things as kids. Ones I got a lot were, "Don't play with your food," "No singing at the table," "No running in church," "Quit distracting others," "No talking in class,"...
Well once you've got those down you get older and turns out you have more to learn...like, "Don't judge others," "Chocolate is bad for you," "Sugary drink will make you fat," "Money doesn't grow on trees,"....
Now, these are good things to remember and keep in mind.
With 21 years of experience under my belt I can tell you that we all have bad days. We all need a pick-me-up now and again. So I'm here to tell you a few things I've learned.
1. Sometimes I catch myself looking at other people's lives and thanking God that I don't have their life. I was comparing my life to someone I knew in High School the other day and they have never had a real boyfriend, their friends aren't as awesome as mine, and her family is crazier than mine (yes that's achievable). Yes, this is judging saying that "I'm glad my life isn't like hers,"...but, it also made me so very thankful for the life I have. I am very thankful to have the boyfriend I do in my life, to have the great friends/sorority sisters in my life and the Brady bunch family I have in my life. So in short, judging can put things in perspective and make you thankful for the things and people you have. Just be careful, because one man's trash is another man's treasure.
2. Sometimes when you have had a bad day and things don't go the way they should. Or you feel mistreated or neglected...it is ok to go to the store and buy your favorite chocolate or ice cream and your favorite coke and eat and drink the whole thing in one sitting. Sometimes that's just what you need to do. And it's what makes you feel better. Trust me we've all been there...it's ok to have emotional fat kid moments every once and a while. Plus chocolate has antioxidants in it that make you feel good because they are good for you.
3. Retail therapy is ok. I don't know what it is about buying a new pair of shoes or a new dress that heals wounds, but it does. If you have the money, why not make yourself feel better by treating yourself to a shopping day? Supposedly too when women shop it releases dopamine....
So go ahead, throw everything that's ever been told to you about money, judging and sweets out the window now and again and give into those inner fat kid moments.
I may not be an expert on life, but hey you'd have to live a whole life to be able to say that and hopefully 21 years isn't all I get.
We are all told not to do things as kids. Ones I got a lot were, "Don't play with your food," "No singing at the table," "No running in church," "Quit distracting others," "No talking in class,"...
Well once you've got those down you get older and turns out you have more to learn...like, "Don't judge others," "Chocolate is bad for you," "Sugary drink will make you fat," "Money doesn't grow on trees,"....
Now, these are good things to remember and keep in mind.
With 21 years of experience under my belt I can tell you that we all have bad days. We all need a pick-me-up now and again. So I'm here to tell you a few things I've learned.
1. Sometimes I catch myself looking at other people's lives and thanking God that I don't have their life. I was comparing my life to someone I knew in High School the other day and they have never had a real boyfriend, their friends aren't as awesome as mine, and her family is crazier than mine (yes that's achievable). Yes, this is judging saying that "I'm glad my life isn't like hers,"...but, it also made me so very thankful for the life I have. I am very thankful to have the boyfriend I do in my life, to have the great friends/sorority sisters in my life and the Brady bunch family I have in my life. So in short, judging can put things in perspective and make you thankful for the things and people you have. Just be careful, because one man's trash is another man's treasure.
2. Sometimes when you have had a bad day and things don't go the way they should. Or you feel mistreated or neglected...it is ok to go to the store and buy your favorite chocolate or ice cream and your favorite coke and eat and drink the whole thing in one sitting. Sometimes that's just what you need to do. And it's what makes you feel better. Trust me we've all been there...it's ok to have emotional fat kid moments every once and a while. Plus chocolate has antioxidants in it that make you feel good because they are good for you.
3. Retail therapy is ok. I don't know what it is about buying a new pair of shoes or a new dress that heals wounds, but it does. If you have the money, why not make yourself feel better by treating yourself to a shopping day? Supposedly too when women shop it releases dopamine....
So go ahead, throw everything that's ever been told to you about money, judging and sweets out the window now and again and give into those inner fat kid moments.
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